Beyond the Folded Flag: What Gen X Military Surviving Spouses Carry

I am part of Generation X — the so-called “forgotten generation.” As a military surviving spouse, I know that grief in midlife is not just about losing the person you love. It is also about losing community, home, and identity.

When a service member dies, we don’t just bury a spouse. We often:

  • Lose base housing and must relocate, sometimes across states.

  • Say goodbye to the military family that once held us up.

  • Face job hunts with résumés full of gaps from caregiving and PCS moves.

  • Battle ageism in the workforce, right when financial survival depends on finding employment.

Military survivor benefits are critical, but they rarely stretch far enough. For Gen X survivors, who already entered midlife with the weakest retirement savings, the financial reality is stark. The average benefit ($1,612/month) doesn’t cover a mortgage, let alone raise children or care for aging parents.

We are not too young to be broken by loss. We are not too old to rebuild. But we cannot do it unseen.

To my network: if you employ, support, or advocate, please remember the families still fighting to survive beyond the folded flag.

#GoldStarSpouses #GenX #MilitaryFamilies #Ageism #Grief #SurvivorAdvocacy

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